[Rhodes22-list] New member, R22 interest, but very coy

[L. Sailor]

HI, Michael,

I mulled over whether to reply to you but as you took
the time to write & appear to be a reasonable fellow,
I thought you deserved the courtesy of a reply.

I appreciate your comments, altho' the bar analogy
brought up no memories, I do have vague recollections
of dancing on a few tables at some owners' Rendezvous
held in the past. Unfortunately, collective memory
tends to become distorted over time, (that fish gets
longer & longer with each telling) and the holders of
those memories tend to become a bit possessive of
them.

I was not playing the 'I have more experience'
game.....just stating a fact...it might be more
correct to say that I spent ten years on the water,
pulling lines,sheets & ropes at the behest of my best
bud.  I do not have the knowledge of many things that
I will need for my future forays, as that info was in
my hubby's head (we were a team & he did the technical
& let me do all the other). He's not with me now, gone
far too soon, and I have 'way much to learn to survive
both on & off the water after almost 40 years with
him. So I am here to learn but not to be bullied.

It is too bad that judgements are made so swiftly
(paranoid, newbie) before getting to know someone
throught their postings. I can see why people would
drop off after being on briefly if their 'welcome' was
similar to mine. I do not believe that I necessrily
got off to a wrong start....I was flamed for not doing
things the way some people want them done. 

I have already divulged 'way too much information that
is not germane to my reason for joining the list,
which I have already given in a previous post. 

So, for now, I am

la ragazza italiana del marinaio senza una barca, or 

Elle 

for short.



--- Michel Meltzer <mjm at michaelmeltzer.com> wrote:

> For what it worth.
> 
> Remember the list is like a people hanging out at
> the bar, drinking and
> talking for the last 10 years. So there is a
> collective memory of the
> people who have come before you. So some insight.
> 
> 
> We are a small boat with a low entry point, so at
> times people jump on
> the list who are new to the sport, think sailing is
> cool, is a sport
> that they can do alone, and that good for them
> because they anti social,
> kind of strange, generally paranoid.
> 
> Now you mention that you are in the marine business
> I sure you seen the
> type. 
> 
> I going to take you at your word that you are a
> sailor, and I assuming
> you are a nice person, and I betting that you have
> the ability for self
> refection (otherwise I just wasted my time with this
> email)
> 
> The nominal course of event is a new member
> introduces themselves, and
> people do the "welcome aboard name", but with out
> that(and first would
> have been fine) you just managed to come off 
> paranoid, it that what you
> wanted? 
> 
> The people love to take about their boats, but in
> the last few months do
> you want to guess how many people got on here kinda
> passing thought(i.e.
> I buy a boat in a few years), generally they drop
> off in a few weeks, I
> sure that not you but " collective memory" thing
> again, it no fun being
> rejected. 
> 
> 
> The experience thing, did you notice no one is
> paying "I have more
> experience than you game", it is a little tacky, you
> would have been
> better off telling a nice sailing story that show
> the experience instead
> of the 2x4 across the head approach.
> 
> Remember most of the member of the list are boat
> owners.
> 
> The players, you do not know them let, you both over
> reacting and under
> reacting.
> 
> 
> I subject you find a name, come off as a reasonable
> sailor, an someone
> people want to be around, get to know group and be
> an active member. But
> at this point, you have gotten off to a bad start,
> an are like a
> airplane in a drive, you know it going to crash. I
> your case you are
> going to delist in days within a statement pretty
> close "how dare these
> people" when all that happened is that you never
> pulled out of drive.
> 
> 
> 
> 
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: rhodes22-list-bounces at rhodes22.org
> [mailto:rhodes22-list-
> > bounces at rhodes22.org] On Behalf Of L. Sailor
> > Sent: Sunday, March 12, 2006 10:53 PM
> > To: The Rhodes 22 mail list
> > Subject: Re: [Rhodes22-list] New member, R22
> interest, but very coy
> > 
> > Hey, A,
> > 
> > Thanks for the info. I certainly agree with you
> about
> > the builder after reading the entire General Boats
> > site last night....and the board seems to regard
> him
> > with true affection.
> > 
> > To clarify: the $$ is not an issue as far as the
> > quality of the boat is concerned; just right now
> it is
> > not possible. As we had a 34' cruiser with some
> > amenities, the Rhodes appears to have the quality,
> > seaworthyness, and amenities in a boat that I can
> > handle by myself.....
> > 
> > I have already made plans to go to Edenton within
> the
> > next two weeks to see for myself....
> > 
> > L.
> > 
> > --- "Arthur H. Czerwonky"
> <czerwonky at earthlink.net>
> > wrote:
> > 
> > > L,
> > >
> > > Seconded.  No better boat for light cruising,
> very
> > > forgiving, can be very fast and fun, and can be
> a
> > > mite expensive.  Truly a case of 'you get what
> you
> > > pay for.  Think of this - a boat manufacturer
> who
> > > will upgrade entirely to your wishes, with good
> > > advise on what would fit your wants the best,
> with
> > > foreknowledge of the budget limitations.  You
> don't
> > > find manufacturers doing this anymore,
> expecially
> > > directly with the customer.
> > >
> > > So you want an in-furling Main this year, and a
> > > furling Genny next?  I'd suggest the opposite
> order,
> > > actually.  Make a menu, bounce it around the
> list a
> > > little, visit Stan just down the road in Edenton
> and
> > > see it - you have the time now more than ever.
> > >
> > > No one is in a hurry, except maybe you, because
> > > everyone on the list wants you to be a happy
> camper
> > > like them.  Speaking of camping, many, many on
> the
> > > list camp on their boats.
> > >
> > > I can't say enough nice things about this boat,
> L.
> > >
> > > Have a nice w and call S sometime, although he
> is
> > > under the weather with s.  BTW, E and R will
> trrrrry
> > > to lure you to a place called H.  Be carrreful
> of
> > > them cause they are a couple of slick b's. 
> We'll
> > > watch closely for your progress with the R.
> > >
> > > R,
> > >
> > > A
> > >
> > > -----Original Message-----
> > > >From: Robert Skinner <robert at squirrelhaven.com>
> > > >Sent: Mar 12, 2006 7:48 PM
> > > >To: The Rhodes 22 mail list
> > > <rhodes22-list at rhodes22.org>
> > > >Subject: Re: [Rhodes22-list] New member
> > > >
> > > >Hello, L. Sailor!
> > > >
> > > >Now, y'all be kind to the old relic. 
> Seriously, if
> > > >you have been used to a larger boat, the Rhodes
> > > will
> > > >suit you well.
> > > >
> > > >/Robert Skinner
> > >
> >
>
>------------------------------------------------------
> > > >"L. Sailor" wrote:
> > > >>
> > > >> Ed. K. & all,
> > > >>
> > > >> It is Mrs. new member....altho' my Mr.
> recently
> > > passed
> > > >> away....
> > > >>
> > > >> I had to sell our larger boat as it was too
> big
> > > for me
> > > >> to singlehand and the learning curve for all
> the
> > > >> systems was too steep.... I hope eventually
> 
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